DH left for a conference in Reno this morning, so it will be a week of little cooking and little spending on the home front.
I had lunch with an old friend yesterday. We went through divorces about the same time, years ago, and both married for the second time a couple years later.
Our lives have turned out differently, however.
My friend has had jobs that have no retirement befefits, and while she is frugal in some ways, she is a spendthrift in others.
Also, one of her grown kids keeps returning to live with her, bringing her two children and her four pets. Yesterday, the daughter announced she was going to quit her job!
This is the kind of situation that really puts a strain on finances, and keeps one in a budget crunch.
There is a fine line between enabling and seeing that your grandkids are taken care of. I can't fault her for taking them into her home, but when does one stop being a caretaker of others, and start taking care of one's self?
Can you ever put yourself first?
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It seems like some people feel "entitled", and feel like they deserve to be taken care of. After all, "They didn' t ASK to be born". Sometimes, it is becasue they are spoiled, sometimes, it is a character disorder, sometimes, it is just a way of life. I remember hearing a young, able bodied man, on the news, say, "If you can't depend on the government to take care of you, who can you depend on?" I really think a lot of people believe that they shouldn't have to take care of themselves.
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